Masturdate!

I'm glad that the time has come now that people are embracing their singularity  rather than being in a mad haste to be in relationships. Not so long ago, singularity was looked down upon, it was considered uncool but today single is the new sexy.

You find a lot of them happily flaunting their single status on social media, even the ones who apparently are in relationships!
It's a great time to be alive when people are open to not being defined by someone else and are comfortable in their individuality.

As a teen, I looked forward to that big moment happening when I too joined the bandwagon of relationships. But, more than that, I wanted to have an emotional companionship because during my teenage, I didn't have deep friendships and I was quite lonely.

I thought a relationship would magically overturn my world for good. But slowly I realized that the purpose of a relationship should never be to cover up your personal insecurities. Rather,  one must achieve a certain level of security, and then be in a romantic partnership.

Besides, everything comes with its share of good and bad. It's not always going to be roses and rainbows.

As I grew up to who I am today, my priorities began shifting. Now, a  relationship is not a necessity. It is just something that will happen if and when it has to happen and there is absolutely no hurry or compulsion to be in one.

I have meaningful emotional bonds, I have people I can call up and vent to, I have people with whom I can laugh with, have deep intellectual conversations with or even talk absolute bullshit with. I have people I am sure of having my back. That's everything I can ask for. A romantic relationship will only be the cherry on the cake.

Of course there are certain needs that only a relationship can fulfill. The intimacy is definitely something that is missing in my life and yes I do crave for physical affection especially because I am an extremely physical person. I love being hugged and kissed and even a mere affectionate touch means the world to me. (From the right people ofcourse )

I miss being romantically loved and more than that, I miss giving love!  My need to express love is sometimes greater that my need to  recieve it.

However, leaving that aside, I'm comfortable in my singularity, and I don't look down upon me for my relationship status. I don't feel something is amiss to be single nor do I feel compelled to get into a relationship.

I know my worth and I know I'm a woman of substance and got everything that it takes. The absensce of  a man doesn't affect the way I perceive myself anymore.

We all need to learn to "masturdate"
Okay, don't be startled. It is a slang for taking yourself out for movies, dinners, basically doing things alone, that you'd otherwise do with a partner.. Ahem.

It's basically Being self sufficient.

It is very important to shape our individualities and learn to be comfortable alone,  because it is only when you mend our relationship with ourselves that we can have mature relationships with others.

Love, Harsha.